Last Saturday marked six months since Jeff and I got married. When did that happen? The past six months have been a whirlwind of changes, busy days, the ups and downs of normal life, and it’s hard to believe that it was not so long ago that I was walking down the aisle to make it official with my dream guy. The greatest part of looking back on our time as newlyweds is knowing that it has been the best chapter of our relationship so far. My heart is so full and I am so happy. In the spirit of reflection and celebration, here are a few of my favorite bits about marriage so far:
The word “husband” is the best:
I love it! I had a hard time taking or using “fiancé” seriously, but husband feels just right.
Marriage changes things:
Maybe it’s naive, but I didn't think it would for us. We had been dating for years, we lived together, and we had been through a lot, and I assumed marriage would be like that with a certificate. Instead, I realized that making the biggest commitment of our lives deepened our love, gave us new insight on each other, and strengthened our bond. I am more in love with Jeff than ever before, because we made this great leap together.
Don’t write thank you cards before:
The organized women among us would argue, but I’m so glad I didn't write my thank you cards until after the wedding. I’m an emotional person, and to be able to reflect and write a few words to the loved ones who sent their well wishes or traveled great distances to be with us, after the experience of getting married, was amazing.
Take your time:
I have plenty left to do (including a few of those aforementioned thank you cards…) to show our gratitude to our friends and family. We haven’t been on our honeymoon, and probably won’t go until after our first anniversary. Instead of stressing and racing to make these things happen, we've been letting life take its course. Things are exciting and busy enough and I know everything will happen when it’s meant to.
Be the new you:
Before our wedding, I had grand plans for the next few years. Maybe we’d move, maybe I’d go to grad school, maybe we’d have more adventures before settling down. I wasn't prepared for what actually happened – that I felt a great sense of comfort, stability, and peace as a newlywed in Boise. Getting married and officially becoming a little family was just what I needed to stop and smell the roses. I really like these roses and I’m so excited for what’s to come in our life here.
On to the next six! Do you have any great advice for newlyweds?